Ok! I'll do my best!

"Finish every day and be done with it . . . You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it . . . serenely, and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense.

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Quoting, of cours.

"It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble and fall, there lies your true treasure." -- Joseph Campbell

Oh so very true!

There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered. — Nelson Mandela

Happy 4th

"Fake coolness might help in your navigation among and negotiation with people throughout the world, maybe, but it is impossible to meet God with your sunglasses on. It is impossible to meet God without total abandon, without exposing yourself, without being raw and real ... you don't know what's going on behind those glasses half the time, but God, I can assure you, always does." -- Bono

Catching Up!

The Princess and her Prince were in town this past weekend. Friday was a day by the pool and dinner at her Dad's. Here they are Dad and daughter, enjoying some fun in the sun. Hey Larry, have another burger! Oh, and, have you seen that commercial about the guy "striking out" because of his gray hair? I realize life is good, but now really!
The Princess (with her new short hair, which looks adorable on her) and her let's hug sister, Shelly!

Saturday, big southern breakfast at Mom's, Saturday night, a progressive dinner, me and the Princess and her Prince, Tony Madola's to start and on to Vincent's for the main course. Sunday a delicious southern lunch at Mom's and then . . . the Princess and her Prince headed back to their castle in Big D. It was a wonderful weekend!!!!!!! Lot's of Hugs, Kisses and Smiles all around. Oh and, The Princess brought me a couple of books to read, I read the first one "Same Kind of Different as Me" very quickly, and I have to say, it was one of the best books I've ever read. It so gracefully pointed out how we and me so often get it so terribly wrong! A book I think everyone should read at least once and maybe even three or four times, good reminders never hurt! Thanks Princess, that book popped me right between the eyes, and I think I needed a pop! And, of course, as always, when it comes to You, graceful showed up!

A Note to the Princess:

You look marvelous! I love the new do, and your style is impeccable. I don't know how you do it, but you just keep getting better and better! And, I'm so happy that you don't deny yourself handpainted shoes!

Blogging Memories!

The "Princess" in her "Tea Hat"

And, the Princess with a "Spicy Bag" to call her own!

In April, shortly before my previous computer decided to retire, we celebrated the birthday of The Princess with the annual "Honouring the Princess Tea"! The tea was held at a very cute little tea room in Plano, Texas, the stomping grounds of previous generations of our family. (My father graduated from Plano High School). It was a great day for all, good food, good friends, good tea and very good geography (it felt like we were right at home)!

A couple of good quotes!

"The sage seeks freedom from all desire. He does not collect precious things. He learns not to hold on to grand ideas. He continually brings men back to what they have lost."

-- Lao Tzu

"A passion for learning is the beginning of true wealth. It is also the beginning of good health. It is also the beginning of real spirituality."

-- Jim Rohn

And then there's the coolest of the cool!

Now this is for sure true!

"It is wise to direct your anger towards problems - not people; to focus your energies on answers - not excuses. — William Arthur Ward

Doesn't Every Princess have an umbrella to match her Prom Dress?

Clang, Clang, Clang went the trolley . . . Ring, ring, ring went the bell, zing, zing, zing went my heart strings!

I woke up this morning, as I so often do, thinking about my Princess Daughter. Are you wondering why that song would start playing in my head when thinking about my her? Well, because, it was the very first time I saw her take something on that she wanted and work like crazy to get it. Here's the story. Laran was in the 10th grade, crazy high school years, trying out for "officer" of the dance team, a very coveted position. The criteria for tryouts was to dance an original dance, created on your own to the music of your choice, an interview by a panel of judges and to create and dance a dance to 8 counts of a song chosen by the dance director, with the props also chosen by the director. Night after night, I was in captivity in my room (I wasn't allowed to watch her process) while Laran turned the dining room into a dance studio. If I heard that song once, I heard it a thousand times (she only had 3 days to perfect those clang, clang, clangs, Thank God many more clangs and I would have been clanging myself in the head). I wasn't worried about her original dance and certainly not her interview, but that Clang, Clang, Clang thing?????? How is she going to dance to that song? Laran wasn't the strongest dancer on the team and probably not the best politician (something required to be really good in that kind of interview setting), but I knew she would be ok with those things. But what about that clang, clang, clang thing and those props! The day of the tryouts, the only people allowed in the room were the dancers, the judges and the director. The mothers were gathered outside in the courtyard, pacing, chain smoking and wringing their hand. As if trying out wasn’t enough to deal with, all the girls trying out were close friends and there were only 3 spots, some were not going to make it! The horror, the horror! As each girl finished her interview, dance and the 8 count clang, clang, clang, they had to leave the tryout room. Girls that I knew to be either stronger dancers or better politicians then Laran were coming out of that room either throwing up in the bushes or crying their eyes out. The stress of it all completely destroying them. Making it or not making it would determine how the next year looked for them. I'm wringing my hands, thinking to myself, oh my gosh, if these girls are throwing up and crying, Laran will have to be hospitalized (she had been living on Pepto Bismol for weeks, poor thing, she has my Daddy’s tummy, her stress lands there)!
Then it happened, out she came, bag casually thrown over her shoulder, head held high, a smile on her face. I'm looking at her in complete amazement, she was the very picture of Grace and Poise!!!! It's one of the few times my child actually rendered me speechless. I looked at her with a questioning look on my face and she said "I worked as hard as I could, I did the best I could do and that's all that I can do! If I make it great, if I don't, I'll be ok with it because I know I did my best!" Since that day, whenever I know she's facing a tough time or trying to get somewhere she wants to go, or when she has lot's on her plate, or her mother's calling asking her to "be" there for someone else, I see her coming out of that door, bag casually thrown over her shoulder, head held high, the picture of Grace and Poise. And, in my head, I hear, Clang, clang, clang with the trolley . . . because I know that whatever it is, she will get through it with Grace and Poise!

Are you wondering if she was one of the three that “made it”? Absolutely she was! And, I was the MC at the Presentation Banquet that year. Open the envelope please! I had to stand in front of all those girls and all those parents and announce who had made it, without being totally sure that she had. I announced her name and presented her with her Officer Bar!

Zing, Zing, Zing go my heart strings everytime I think about the Princess and her Poise and Grace! The Princess has always given me a reason to believe in Serendipity! Thank you Princess for always being my special Grace!

I listened. . .

I had a rousing conversation with my sister, Rufus, over the weekend. One in which we, at times, had to simply agree to disagree. Being so much alike yet so very different, sometimes the conversations we have, that reveal our differences leave us both at a place of "is it possible that we could feel so different and love each other so much?" Absolutely! Not long after that phone conversation ended, I got another call from her, telling me how she was going to spend the rest of her day, she said, "Before I do this, I need to know if we are ok?" My response, "Absolutely, I'm right, you're wrong, it's all good!" She laughed, I laughed, we hung up and we went on with our day, loving each other all the more!

It's truly never about the "fight" for me, it's about the "inquiry" which sometimes causes fiery words from me and others. Even with "fiery" words, detaching from those that are in the inquiry isn't an option, detaching from those that are in the "fight" is sometimes the only answer!

"Those that fight, can't ever seem to listen; those that listen, don't ever need to fight."
-- Fritz Perls

It's a miraculous ride we're on Rufus and . . . I Love You Madly!

Choose!

"We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them. — Kahlil Gibran

6:00 am, Paradise Cafe

In the depths of winter I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus

Fly Away

I have a friend, whom I love very much who does have a tendency to "Fly Away". I, on the other hand, have a tendency to stomp my foot and leave! The result is the same from both actions, people are left with anger, sadness, confusion and disappointment! Not to mention the fact that when the urge hits to "Fly Away" or stomp your foot and leave, if you do either one, you will miss the lesson that's available to you if you stay!

The chorus of Tim McGraw's new song.....Last Dollar (Fly Away)

And 1..2..3
Like a bird I sing
Cause you've given me
The most beautiful set of wings
And I'm so glad you're here today
Cause tomorrow I might have to go and fly away


I'm never going to let you go again my friend! Thanks for sending me this, you do have a beautiful set of wings, but I am glad you are here today, to fly with me!

Understanding Myself!

I've never been a person that is short on extending forgiveness to others, but, I've always had a difficult time forgiving myself. It's that thing of "what if", what if I'd done this, what if I'd done that! There is no forgiveness for yourself in the re-living of the choices, even if it's just in your own head. Forgiveness is only available for yourself or to extend to others, if you accept what's so! Accepting what's so, and making different choices in the present and the future, creates a clearing for new possibilities. The possibility of a "new and different" kind of chaos, the goal to always be, to learn something from the chaos. At some point, in any chaos, if you have "looked" for and "learned" from the chaos, new chaos actually looks inviting! Here's to new chaos! My stand in the new chaos, to be compassionate, understanding, non-judgemental, and loving, to myself first and to all others, I know that will produce the best and most effective results.

Substance!

"Beware lest you lose the substance by grasping at the shadow."

Aesop, in The Dog and the ShadowGreek slave & fable author (620 BC - 560 BC)

Rufus Rants . . . and I don't blame her!

Beliefs: For Sale

After reading my sister's blog www.from-rufus.com, all kinds of things popped for me! I attended one of the meetings she's talking about with her once! Looking around the table and understanding what my sister has been through all the years that she has attended those meeting ALONE, I felt the intimidation and more then a little shameful that I hadn't availed myself to attending those meeting with her in the past, she certainly could have used an advocate. I have rarely felt that intimidated and silently, in my own head, was outraged at the thought that here we were, my sister, her son and myself, being outnumbered, threatened, intimidated and being told what they felt was best for her son by people that are paid with OUR TAX DOLLARS!!!!! The feeling was that they were there to do what was best for the school district, not what was necessarily best for my nephew. I felt compelled to take that intimidation on, and as is so often the way I deal with things, my mouth would not stay shut! My sister will probably never ask me to go to one of those meetings with her again. I came away with a new respect and admiration for my sister that day, and a new understanding of the very difficult road she had and still is walking. I salute you Rufus, I couldn't have gone through all you have gone through with the Grace you have displayed. Being my authentic self, I would have bombed the building years ago!

While thinking about all of that, the realizations started coming fast and furious, mostly having to do with rules and boundaries. It's terrible to be in a position of others telling you what the rules and boundaries are about the most important thing to any mother, her child! Feeling compromised on that level is more painful and fear inducing then I have the words to explain. It also popped up that agreeing to live by what some else tells you the rules and boundaries have to be in order to accommodate their fears, is fear inducing in it's self! It's feels wrong, it leaves you with a feeling of being less than authentic and in a place of questioning your own integrity!

When you have been through a time in your life when you have totally lost touch with all the rules and boundaries that have made your life work for you your entire life, it's a long process to re-establish your own rules and boundaries in your mind and, the hardest part of all, to then begin again to live by them! What attending that meeting with my sister did, and the memory her blog brought up again for me is, Fear. Fear is what causes each and everyone of us to not live by the rules and boundaries that we know are right and good for us. The fear of losing something, the fear of not looking good, the fear of making someone angry! The dictionary defines fear as:

fear: –noun
1. a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.
2. a specific instance of or propensity for such a feeling: an abnormal fear of heights.
3. concern or anxiety; solicitude: a fear for someone's safety.
4.reverential awe, esp. toward God.
5.that which causes a feeling of being afraid; that of which a person is afraid: Cancer is a common fear. –verb (used with object)
6.to regard with fear; be afraid of.

I've lived most of my life being totally fearless! Believing I could handle anything that came my way. Right up until the time that I became fearful of everything, my own actions, the actions of others, the phone or doorbell ringing, fear of what I was going to say, or what others might say.

What I've learned today, living by your OWN rules and boundaries is what creates fearlessness. I read something a while back, written by someone else about what they have learned, I've deleted the ones I don't feel I've learned (I probably need to work on the ones I've deleted in order to learn them) and I've added my comments to the ones I have learned about what else I have learned. Here it is:

I've Learned

I'VE LEARNED that you cannot make someone love you or act a certain way to prove it to you. All you can do is be someone who is loving and can be loved. The rest is up to them. (How can anyone love you if you aren't being who you really are? Being true to your own rules and boundaries is the only way to be who you truly are!)

I'VE LEARNED that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I'VE LEARNED that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.

I'VE LEARNED that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes. After that, you'd better know something important and useful. (During my dark days, someone said to me "You are the most charming and endearing liar I've ever known! How's that for a compliment? Thanks DCM for holding my mouth accountable and for thinking I'm charming and endearing!)

I'VE LEARNED that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do. (I've learned that doing your best is sometimes intimidating to others, but that's no reason not to do your best, their feelings of intimidation are about their baggage.)

I'VE LEARNED that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it that matters.

I'VE LEARNED that you can do something in an instant that will give you a heartache for life.

I'VE LEARNED that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides. (I've learned that some people aren't interested in both sides, they only want to hear the side that suits their own needs.)

I'VE LEARNED that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be and who God made me to be, and that those are the same things.

I'VE LEARNED that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think carefully.

I'VE LEARNED that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I'VE LEARNED that you can keep going long, l o n g , L O O O O O O N G after you think you can't.

I'VE LEARNED that we are responsible for what we think, do, and say, no matter how we feel.

I'VE LEARNED that either you control your attitude or it controls your whole life.

I'VE LEARNED that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else more meaningful to take its place.

I'VE LEARNED that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of their fear or any possible consequences. (I've learned that some people have a distorted view of what a "hero" is! I've learned that you don't become a hero by doing for others what they can do for theirself. I've learned that doing for others what they can do theirselves is co-dependency, not helping, it's about thinking they are more important and have more value then you do, and you are, therefore willing to do what they can be do theirselves. I've learned that no one really values work you do for free or money you give away, they just think you have no life, need something to do, want to be liked, and are therefore willing to pay to be liked or avoid boredom by spending your money or by giving your time away. I've learned that there are those that will always take what you are willing to give but that when you have nothing left to give, they will be angry and probably, gone.)

I'VE LEARNED that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it in ways that are meaningful or preferable to you. (I've learned that I've been loved by many, I've been shown that love in the best way they knew how to show their love, I just wasn't any good at receiving it! I'm working on being better at receiving, to bad I didn't get that message for myself with that Valentine Basket episode!)

I'VE LEARNED that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I'VE LEARNED that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down may be the ones to help you get back up.

I'VE LEARNED that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, to feel and express my anger, but that never gives me the right to be cruel and harsh.

I'VE LEARNED that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance and the longest time. Same goes for true love.

I'VE LEARNED that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I'VE LEARNED that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated or how much you've accomplished or accumulated.

I'VE LEARNED that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't always biological. (Thanks Coco!)

I'VE LEARNED that it's possible to feel a stronger "family" connection to a step-sibling then to your biological siblings.

I'VE LEARNED that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself. (I've learned that forgiveness of yourself is sometimes much harder then getting forgiveness from others.)

I'VE LEARNED that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief. (I've learned that even when you stop your own world because of depression and grief, the rest of the world goes on, but you don't!)

I'VE LEARNED that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we ultimately become.

I'VE LEARNED that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I'VE LEARNED that we show who we are by our actions.

I'VE LEARNED that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I'VE LEARNED that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I'VE LEARNED that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I'VE LEARNED that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt, sometimes by you, and you will hurt a great deal in the process.

I'VE LEARNED that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get further in life. (My point exactly!)

I'VE LEARNED that many things can be powered by the mind, the trick is first self-control, then self-surrender.

I'VE LEARNED that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.

I'VE LEARNED that your life can be changed in a matter of hours, by people who don't even know you. (I've learned that sometimes, when that happens, it's not really about You, it's about something going on with the person that doesn't even know you!)

I'VE LEARNED that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I'VE LEARNED that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us. (Choose!)

I'VE LEARNED that credentials on the wall, adulation and the cheering of a crowd do not make you a decent human being.

I'VE LEARNED that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

I'VE LEARNED that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.

I'VE LEARNED that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.

I'VE LEARNED that no matter how fast or how far you go, you can't outrun God.

I'VE LEARNED that no matter how far away I've been, He'll always welcome me back. (I've learned that True Friends will always welcome you back also!)

I'VE LEARNED that love is not for me to keep, but to pass on to the next person I see.

I'VE LEARNED that even if you do the right thing for the wrong reason, it's still the wrong thing to do.

I'VE LEARNED what the saying "The road to Hell is paved with good intentions means." Good intentions aren't enough, good action is required.

I'VE LEARNED that WRITING, as well as talking can ease emotional pain!

And the best part of all . . . I AM STILL LEARNING

As the dawn breaks . . .

Like most days in the last few years, it's 4:00 am and I'm awake and ready to start the day! Being an early riser isn't something that has always existed in my life, it showed up a few years ago when sleeping was something I didn't do much of. I now sleep like a baby, but the early rising has stayed with me. And I'm very happy that it has.

Years ago, a friend of mine lost someone very close to her, for months and months afterwards, she would wake up in a deep dark depression. I didn't get that at all, why would you wake up depressed, the dawning of a new day is the opportunity to "do things better, make things right." I didn't get that right up until the day that I lost my Daddy, suddenly, like my friend, I would wake up terribly depressed, unable to see any possibility in the day. Desperate to understand why that fog of depression was hanging over me in the mornings, I thought about it, I talked about it, I tried to ignore it, I punched at it, I smiled at it, I cried about it! I finally realized, when you've lost someone who is a piece of your heart and soul, your world will forever be tilted, there's no possibility of "doing things better, making things right" with that person, you have to figure out how to right your world without them. That piece of your heart and soul is simply gone, and it's depressing, until the fog of lose burns off and you are left with the Sunlight of the good memories and The Shadow of the Smile that meant so much!

Being a person who hears music in my head all the time, music is where I find comfort. My all time favorite songs come to mind when I think about those that I love, and clearing the fog that use to overtakes my wakings. The song that plays in my heart and head in the early morning when I think about my Daddy. "The Shadow of Your Smile." There is a line in that song that says "The Shadow of Your Smile, when you are gone, will color all my dreams and light the dawn . . ." In my opinion, no one has ever sung that song better than John Gary, not even the voice in my own head. Of all the voices in the world, John Gary's voice was the one voice that all the generations of my family had the biggest appreciation for. My mother was a fan, my sister Carlita and her daughter are fans, Rufus and her mother were fans, and I'm a fan. John Gary sang at my nieces wedding reception years ago, and after his show, The Princess spent the rest of the night, being carried around on his hip. The Princess was only 3 years old at time, dressed up in her flower girl dress, John Gary thought she was prettiest girl in the room, and he carried her around all night. The picture of John Gary holding the The Princess in his arms and dancing across the floor is one of my favorites, the Princess is probably a fan also! That might have been her first dance!

I had a wonderful relationship with my Daddy. I only have one regret, I don't think I ever truly found the words to Thank him for all he was to me, the words of a song that come closest to thanking the person who took me for crayons to perfume, are the words of "To Sir with Love."

The other song that has played in my head and lifted the fog so many times. "Sunlight." I guess I should say, a song by "Three Dog Night" but actually, as far as I'm concerned, it's a song by Chuck Negron (the voice I've always appreciated most), sung beautifully, without much of the rest of Three Dog Night. There's a line in that song that says "have you seen the Sunlight falling through her hair. . ." I feel my very best with the Sunlight falling through my hair, and there's another line that says "if you wake up screaming, scared about what you're dreaming, you know she is there, she can share, cause that's the way she feels about You." I'm at my best when I'm there for someone I care about! And, over the last few years, without those that were fearless about being there, when I woke up screaming, scared about what I was dreaming, they were there because that's the way they feel about me! I don't think I would have made it back to the "Sunlight." They were great fog lifters!

One of those people, knowing how much I love the dawn, sent me a picture of a recent dawning of one of her days. Here it is!

Here's what she said in the email when she sent this picture.

Good Morning,

We had a little fog this morning. Thought you might enjoy the pic of today's sunrise.

Thanks for sending this picture Hooper, it's a great shot of what's possible, if you live in the possibility of the day! "Sunlight" will burn-off the fog and leave you with "The Shadow of Your Smile" if you'll let it! There's nothing better than the shadow of the smile of someone you care about. The shadow of your smile is alive in my head right now Hooper, and, you are a charter member of my "Fog Lifter's Club."

Bright and shiny morning to all the members of my Fog Lifter's Club! Thank you for being my "Sunlight."

P.S. This is an unpaid commercial for the Voices that are also members of my Fog Lifter's Club.

John Gary, that beautiful voice, singing that beautiful song, is no longer with us, but, his music is still alive and well and can be purchased on amazon.com. "Yellow Bird up high in banana tree. . ." oops, sorry, John Gary moment in my head!

Chuck Negron is alive and well and still out there gracing the world with that incredible Voice of his! Be good to yourself, treat yourself to one of his live and lively shows, or purchase one of his SOLO CD's. Ok, ok, buy the CD that contains "Sunlight" also! Read his book Three Dog Nightmare, a book of inspiration no matter what caused your slip and fall! Purchase his CD's and book at www.negron.com or visit amazon.com.

Lulu, the voice I hear singing "To Sir with Love." Also alive and well and available on amazon.com.

I love this . . .

"You don't throw a life away just because it's been banged up a little."

Tom Smith, the horse trainer
who took Seabiscuit on,
played by Chris Cooper

The conversation . . .

What I got, for me, during the last several months.

I got a reminder of what it feels like to make promises you either can’t keep or really don’t want to keep. I got a reminder of what it feels like to possibly lose someone you care about because of that! I got a reminder of what it feels like to be "held accountable" when you’re pretending! I got a reminder of what it feels like to "pretend" because you don’t think you’re enough! I didn’t like any of those feelings and I’m never going to do anything to create those feelings again. I’m whole, complete and perfect, just like I am, I’m a stand for truly believing that about myself.

I also got what it feels like to have those that truly love you stand by you no matter what! I’m a very lucky girl to be loved so much by so many, I’m a stand for loving myself more than others love me! Not in an arrogant, selfish way, but in a way that gives others access to loving me even more! The authentic Me!

What I know for sure. I’ve worked very hard to get past the past, to come out of my depression, to be able to dress myself everyday (which wasn’t possible on some days in the past). I’m human, I’ve made mistakes and sometimes bad choices, and I’m sure I will again. Gotta have a breakdown to have a breakthrough, and those breakthroughs are wonderful and powerful. I’m a stand for letting go of the past and creating a bright and shiny Now and Future! There’s an old maxim that says "It’ll shine when it shines." You can’t make some things shine, no matter what you do. The only way to live a bright and shiny Now and Future is to always live your life from a place of being in integrity with yourself and others! A life of authenticity.

From this day forward, I’m a stand for Good Choices! What do good choices look like to me?

Taking better care of my physical self! Eating right, getting more exercise. Yikes, giving up the smokes once and for all!

Choosing to consider how my words and actions land in another’s world. Being more sensitive to others! After all, they are human too! I’m a stand for forgiving myself and others for being human!

Listening, Listening, Listening, really hearing the honesty in the words others speak. Seeing honesty in all my communications and "being" authentic and honest in all my communications. Being fearless about being who I really am, all the while listening, but not compromising my morals, convictions and principles to accommodate another!

I’m a stand for being an extraordinary Choozie Doozie!



P.S. Rufus, thank you for doing the very hard work you're doing and for sharing it with Me! I’m honored and thrilled to be part of the amazing transformation you're experiencing. It’s glorious! You're in the conversation, and it’s flowing around me!